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Tulle skirts and hijab

Long skirts are always a fashion staple in any hijabi’s closet as they are modest and can be dressed up and down. Tulle skirts especially add a little something to any special occasion and now there are so many options available for any look you are going for. Here’s a look at that I recently wore for my friend’s baby shower. I love how one friend described it as “edgy school girl prom dress”. I went darker as I felt that the pink look has been done before and done well. I accessorized it with a leather jacket and belt to lend a cooler edge to it. 


Skirt was from Amazon :

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B016F1ITHS/ref=ya_aw_od_pi?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Bag: Kate Spade

https://www.katespade.com/handbags/clutches/

Belt: Amazon

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01J16U2FQ/ref=ya_aw_od_pi?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Hijab: Voile Chic 

Navy Blue Royal Crepe

Chic wish has some super cute options as well. 


https://www.chicwish.com/catalogsearch/result/?q=Tulle+

You can also check out ASOS as well. This one was petite friendly.

http://m.asos.com/us/little-mistress-petite/little-mistress-petite-maxi-tulle-skirt/prd/8588949?clr=duskylilac&SearchQuery=Tulle%20skirt&pgesize=50&pge=0&totalstyles=201&gridsize=2&gridrow=4&gridcolumn=2

A couple of years ago, tulle skirts were not as ubiquitous and easy to find so I did a DIY tutorial and made it for myself and my daughter. 


Here’s the link to the no sew option.

http://www.livingwellspendingless.com/2013/07/22/no-sew-super-full-tulle-skirt-diy

Here are some photos to inspire you to try this look out. Share your comments and pictures below! 


PC: Iman from Hijablog

Heba Jay 

Scandals and how to deal with them at home 

Over the weekend, a pretty major scandal broke about a leading Islamic speaker in U.S. There’s been a great deal of denial, accusations, victim shaming and general heartache and confusion in the community. There’s a great article on how to deal with the aftermath here https://muslimmatters.org/2017/09/24/navigating-the-nouman-ali-khan-scandal/

Living in this digital world where we have access to any type of image and can connect with almost anyone, anywhere, has left us vulnerable as a community.  How should we approach this topic with our children, many of whom have listened to the speaker at conferences and on YouTube? Many parents have said, don’t say anything. This is problematic and just like the ostrich sticking their heads in the sand, not going to do any good. Our kids have internet access and can find the information out on their own and may be too young to understand what is proper conduct. Even if they don’t access at home, they can hear the rumors from their friends.  Hopefully, we have the kind of relationship that allows them to approach us about the issues. If they don’t, they might be discouraged, “if so and so can’t even follow the deen properly, how can I?” Or make them think “everyone is engaged in outside relationships, why shouldn’t I?” 

First, we have to realize we cannot place our lecturers on a pedestal. They are simply learning and spreading their knowledge of the deen. The deen is perfect but no human being is. We need to emphasize that a person can make mistakes but we can still benefit from any good knowledge that may have come from them. We have to emphasize Shaytan is always lurking around, no matter how old or famous you are. We have to make a hundred excuses for a fellow believer and if we run out, then we should remain silent. It’s also a good time to emphasize the dangers of sending quote unquote “private” messages. Once it’s out there, anyone can save and share our pics and messages. We also want to speak to them about the dangers of gossip, we don’t want to be burdened with losing our good deeds or perhaps gaining other people’s bad ones on the Day of Judgement. May Allah guide us during these trying times. 

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Travel diaries- Puerto Rico

Being born and raised in NYC, I was bound to have some close Puerto Rican friends growing up. There’s a saying, there are more Puerto Ricans in New York than in Puerto Rico. I was exposed to the delicious foods, fast music and culture of family and love for dancing. My friends would always talk about how beautiful the island was with its lush rainforests, beautiful beaches and bioluminescent bays. I was privileged to travel there for a long weekend to celebrate my birthday and the island totally lived up to all expectations.

We landed and immediately headed straight to eat! My sister and best friend wanted mofongo while I was looking forward to arroz con pollo. I definitely had gained five pounds by the end of the trip! 


That top pic was fried cheesecake with ice cream, yum!

We then went to explore Old San Juan. It was absolutely charming! Lots of history and you can see the confluence of cultures in the architecture. Loved all the pastel colored buildings, they make for a great backdrop for beautiful photos.

Hijab: Voile Chic https://voilechic.ca/

Top: Free People https://www.freepeople.com/

Pants: Boohoo http://us.boohoo.com/

Purse: Amazon https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00X5EZ2IS/ref=mp_s_a_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1505312566&sr=8-5&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=straw+purse&dpPl=1&dpID=51zylQg79SL&ref=plSrch

After a little exploring, it was time for dinner. Our friends recommended verde mesa. We all loved the charming decor. 

We were also learning that patience is needed with the service at most restaurants, we were on island time. 

A few of us headed out to the El San Juan hotel. The lobby was gorgeous and had live salsa music. I really enjoyed watching the older couples dance with such elegance and grace. There was one woman in a wheelchair and someone was holding her hands and dancing. It was such a fun and festive and accepting atmosphere. http://curiocollection3.hilton.com/en/hotels/puerto-rico/el-san-juan-hotel-curio-collection-by-hilton-SJUCUQQ/index.html

The next day, we went on a hike through the national rainforest. It was quite beautiful, with a lot of exotic flora and fauna and of course the sounds of coqui were ubiquitous. 

We had also visited the el morro fort, lot of picturesque views from there.

Hijab: Voile chic

Kimono: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01N45J5FE/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

One of the highlights of the trip was relaxing at our hotel. We stayed at the Condado Vanderbilt. It has a grand history and was the perfect place to just chill out. There was even an adults only area and pool. It was in a very central location and we felt very safe staying there. The service was excellent. It also has a beautiful infinity pool. We also enjoyed the only hammam in Puerto Rico. https://www.condadovanderbilt.com/

Burkini: http://www.burqini.com/

Hat and kimono: Amazon 
I would highly recommend a trip to Puerto Rico. It was a perfect gateway to start exploring Latin culture.

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Eid ul adha decor

Eid ul fitr usually gets the lion’s share of focus and attention. We are lucky as Muslims to be able to celebrate two Eids. With Eid ul adha right around the corner,  I wanted to inspire you guys with some decor ideas to make this Eid ul adha special.

Last year, my friend and I threw a party using free printables from this amazing site

http://inmystudio.com.au/2014/07/21/freebie-3-eid-dessert-table/

They were so cute and did I mention they were free? All you have to do is print them. Here are some pics from the party 


I also bought individual wooden letters to make a banner from Hobby Lobby. My friend also made a small kaaba replica and had some Moroccan inspired lanterns to help finish up the look.


You can also make some DIY crafts with the family. This blogger made the cutest party favors with marshmallow sheep and mini kabas

http://time2partay.blogspot.ca/2012/10/eid-mubarak.html?m=1

There are lots of Kaaba craft ideas that the kids can enjoy making and learn about the significance of Hajj at the same time. For the little ones, there are lots of cute sheep decor that they can learn to craft also. 

http://intheplayroom.co.uk/2015/09/17/eid-al-adha-and-hajj-crafts-for-kids/

Hope you are able to partake in this blessed season and enjoy it with your family and friends.

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Thoughts on turning 40

I turned 40 recently and I have to admit, it came with a lot of soul searching and wondering. Have I accomplished everything I always pictured myself doing at this age? Am I living a fulfilling life? What makes me truly happy? What is the definition of fulfillment? I also realize that time is running out and that it is precious. Am I allocating my remaining time to right people and to the right causes? I am still grappling with these thoughts and looking for clarity in my life. I blinked and the last fifteen or so years of my life are gone. No one is guaranteed tomorrow so to be able to have made it this far is a blessing indeed. I like to joke I’d rather be old than the alternative. Society says women should downplay their age and act and look twenty five forever. That I should start covering my grays, fight the wrinkles,  tuck and lift my body parts. There’s nothing wrong with a youthful outlook in life. The problem happens when we fight who we actually are. We need to embrace our older, wiser selves. Having survived the bumps and bruises of life has taught me lessons and patience that my youthful self could never have known. I am looking forward to my future years (God willing) with a little more introspective view. Not always living to please others. Not always having to be the loudest to be heard. Building on better, deeper, more meaningful relationships.  Reaching this point in my life has been an amazing journey and especially because I have been blessed with amazing family and friends. 

“Forty is a most beautiful age for both men and women. Did you know that in mystic thought forty symbolizes the ascent from one level to a higher one and spiritual awakening? When we mourn we mourn for forty days. When a baby is born it takes forty days for him to get ready to start life on earth. And when we are in love we need to wait for forty days to be sure of our feelings.

The Flood of Noah lasted forty days, and while the waters destroyed life, they also washed all impurity away and enabled human beings to make a new, fresh start. In Islamic mysticism there are forty degrees between man and God. Likewise, there are four basic stages of consciousness and ten degrees in each, making forty levels in total. Jesus went into the wilderness for forty days and nights. Muhammad was forty years old when he received the call to become a prophet. Buddha meditated under a linden tree for forty days. Not to mention the forty rules of Shams.

You receive a new mission at forty, a new lease on life! You have reached a most auspicious number. Congratulations! And don’t worry about getting old. There are no wrinkles or gray hair strong enough to defy the power of forty!” – Forty Rules of Love

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Amazon fashion

If anyone knows me, they know I love to shop! The whole process of walking around the mall and scoring good deals is an art that I adore. I was never into online shopping because I wanted the experience of looking through the racks and trying the clothes on plus I didn’t want to pay for shipping and returns. In recent years, this has shifted for me and many other consumers. We now have easy and convenient returns and free shipping with services like Amazon prime. This past year, I have found good deals on clothing with easy returns on the site. The prices are usually better than what you can find in retail. It brings together different retailers so makes it easy to shop and compare and usually includes several photos with different angles. Here are a few of the items I have purchased and worn from Amazon this past year. 

Started 2017 with this cute, sparkly tank. Here’s the link for the tank top.https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01KO2T5F4/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1499693848&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=gold+sequin+tank&dpPl=1&dpID=61B8FedgGzL&ref=plSrch

This skirt was so cute for spring. The material was nice for the price. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01JFPZVKY/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1499694573&sr=8-2&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=silver+pleated+skirt&dpPl=1&dpID=41LHu71lagL&ref=plSrch


Loved this little cardigan. Such cute embroidery on it. Perfect to throw on for a summer pool party. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B072JJYJB9/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1499694774&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=black+embroidered+cardigan&dpPl=1&dpID=51aoK9hf36L&ref=plSrch


This ruffled gingham top hit two of this summer’s trends at once and was an amazing deal. I don’t like spending too much for a trendy item. 

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01LWM4KNW/ref=yo_ii_img?ie=UTF8&psc=1
They also carry accessories like this fun belt

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B01J16U2FQ/ref=yo_ii_img?ie=UTF8&psc=1
Happy shopping guys! Leave a comment for any items you have loved from Amazon.